Do you know how to create and live with healthy boundaries? Have you ever said “I have to get better at setting boundaries?” or “I can’t say no”? Do you feel you are at the whim of everyone else’s needs, or resentful about how often you come last?
Or maybe you’ve discovered that saying NO is not the problem at all, in fact, you want to learn to open up and say YES more often. You recognize that you hold yourself back from life by carefully monitoring risks, by remaining disconnected or aloof from others, by only taking on activities where you know you will succeed in order to avoid failure, and as a result you’re beginning to find yourself isolated, bored or living a rigid and less- than-fulfilling life.
In either of these cases, try fences rather than boundaries.
When most people hear the word “boundaries,” they equate it with saying NO and establishing limits around what others are NOT allowed to...